Thursday, October 3, 2013

What kind of hug is for you?

Do you enjoy the long, so tight your head is going to pop off hug?  What about the hug from your grandma?  You know the one... The one where shes patting you on the back?  Or maybe you enjoy the one armed bro hug..  Either way, as humans we crave that personal touch.

If you Google "hugs", you'll find a Wikipedia definition as: A hug, sometimes in association with a kiss, is a form of nonverbal communication. Depending on culture, context and relationship, a hug can indicate familiarity, loveaffectionfriendship or sympathy. A hug can be given as an indication of support, comfort, and consolation, particularly where words are insufficient. A hug is usually a demonstration of affection and emotional warmth, sometimes arising out of joy or happiness at meeting someone or seeing someone that they have not seen in a long time.

I used to have a friend that would hug me so tight every time I saw him.  I would swear my ears were just going to fly right off my head as he would squeeze so tight, but I LOVED it!  Friendships change and I think every now and again how I could use one of those hugs to get through the day.

I've also been lucky enough to have an awesome brother that gives really tight hugs!  Each time we see each other the hugs are getting tighter and tighter, and I am certainly not going to complain.  He may not know how to express his feelings with his words, but his hugs tell me the full story.

A hug can even be quite awkward.  One person wants a hug when the other doesn't.  Or that weird situation where you haven't seen a friend in a long time and you see it on their face that they want a hug, but you know that if you hug them you'll just cry your eyes out.  Do you take the hug?  Do you give the hug? Do you ignore the wanting inside you for that personal connection? AHHH, the stress!! What do you do?!  I was in this situation recently and opted to ignore the hug.  I regret that decision.

My children give the best hugs.  No, really... They do!! Trust me!  If you are lucky enough, you'll get the tightest, neck gripping, slobber on your cheek hug.  If you are even luckier, you'll get the sweetest, skinny armed, quickest hug in the world hug.  With one, you'll get hugs over and over.. The other will swoop in for that quick hug and run off like she was never there!  Sneaky kid, I tell you!

So, what kind of hugger are you?  What's more importantly, what is your favorite type of hug to receive?

1 comment:

  1. I love the hugs from your kids! But I can't say that I'm much of a "hugger" myself. Of course, Alyssa and I give each other hugs. She needs that reassurance and will often come up to me for a hug and/or kiss but I guess I've just never thought about it that much. But that's just me being me, I guess...